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Five Great Things about Screwing Up

Posted by capcityspeakers on October 28, 2015

by Colette Carlson

colette-carlson-5-great-things-about-screwing-upWhat was your latest, greatest mistake? Was it when you attached the wrong client proposal, or maybe your idea for that leads campaign that went over budget and ended in record-low quarterly sales…? Or maybe you can’t even talk about it because it’s too embarrassing!

Understandable, but think about this for a moment: isn’t the shame you feel over your error, whatever it was, worse than simply admitting you were wrong and moving on? Shame causes us to try and hide our slip-ups, but keeping them locked in our heads actually feeds their power. The resulting anxiety drags us down by forcing us to cover up or overcompensate. Fear increases because, as most of us know, a cover up nearly always comes back to bite us…and usually at the most inopportune time possible.In truth, every mistake – big, small, or in-between – is actually a precious gift (even if its wrapping is revolting). Changing your attitude toward failure can help you face it and grow stronger as a result.

  • Making mistakes is a sign that we’re taking risks. People who don’t take risks trade learning and progress for safety. Feel good about trying and failing rather than doing nothing. In fact, sit down and create your own personal resume of flops. Be as detailed and thorough as possible. Now, think about what each item on your tally of turkeys taught you, or how something positive came from it. You may find that some of those on-the-job mishaps actually furthered your career.
  • The pain from making a mistake – dire consequences, embarrassment, whatever – is life’s built-in success training. Actually, the worse the fallout, the easier it will be to not repeat the blunder. This forges a path to the attitudes and behaviors that do work!
  • When you make a mistake and own it, you take the pressure off yourself to be “perfect.” Perfection is an illusion anyway. Black-and-white standards are impractical, angst-provoking, and make daily life into something like walking a tightrope. Living in the gray areas is genuine and a huge relief.
  • Mistakes show us the importance of humility and honesty, but only if we consciously take responsibility for them. If we do not, it’s possible that the character defect underlying the mistake will lead to a pattern of making similar gaffes. Those who avoid owning their flaws by habitually covering up or lying to others are also being dishonest with themselves. Untruthfulness catches up to us because it takes more and more effort to live with deceit. By the way, this often causes people to take on self-destructive habits to help distract them from reality and guilt.
  • Not only does owning mistakes provide a model of humbleness and integrity; it helps you judge your coworkers and friends less harshly when they mess up. This is an opportunity to develop empathy, as you grow to understand that mistakes are a direct hit to our ego and therefore difficult to handle – not only for you, but for everyone!

Hopefully, you’ll learn to take a kinder view of your “wrong” choices or miscalculations. But if all else fails and you’re spiraling into obsessive self-flagellation over something you did, remember this much at least: “A mistake a day keeps perfectionism at bay.”

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Posted by capcityspeakers on October 19, 2015

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Can a Bad Attitude Kill You?

Posted by capcityspeakers on October 14, 2015

by Barbara Bartlein

We all know that stress is not good for our health but can our attitude kill us?  Dr. Hilary Tindle, a physician and researcher at Vanderbilt University, has conducted a massive study that points to the power of just being hopeful.

Tindle analyzed data from 97,253 women who had filled out questionnaires for the National Institutes of Health’s Women’s Health Initiative, trying to correlate hopefulness and mortality.  Women who had scored high on optimism–being hopeful about the future-had significantly lower rates of heart diease, cancare and mortality than women who scored high on pessimism.

The study also focused on cynicism, described as feelings of pessimism about other people.  Women with lower cynicism, compared with those who viewed most other people with suspicion, had lower risk of death.

In a previous study by Dr. Tindle, she compared more than 430 people who had coronary bypass surgery–284 of whom were diagnosed with clinical depression and 146 of whom were not.  Within eight months of the surgery, the depressed pessimists had more than twice the complication and rehoispitalization rate than the optimistic group.

While not always easy to change, an investment in your attitude can pay dividends with better health and a longer and happier life.  Start with the basics;  good food, exercise, sleep and positive people in your life.  Do activities that “tune up” your attitude.  These include great music, art, reading, and getting out to nature.  You will be amazed how much better you feel.  And remember, enjoy each day and you just may get more of them.

Barbara Bartlein, RN, MSW, is the People Pro.  A workplace culture expert, she offers keynotes, seminars and consultation to increase teamwork and productivity.  For more information on her programs and services, please contact Capitol City Speakers Bureau: www.capcityspeakers.com

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