It is often said that everyone who comes into our lives is sent to teach us something, even the most difficult people. But I believe that people are also sent into our lives so that they might learn from us, be inspired, or gain hope when they had none. Yes, there are times when we are purposefully in that role, but there are many times that we teach, inspire, and restore hope unknowingly by our actions. It could be the way you speak to someone, something you share about yourself, extending a small kindness, or the way you conduct yourself in various situations. If you consider that you have an opportunity to improve, even in some small way, the life of everyone that you encounter, your daily existence will have more meaning and purpose.
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Posted by capcityspeakers on October 26, 2016
Posted by capcityspeakers on October 13, 2016
by John O’Leary
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” ― Leo Buscaglia
As a little boy I frequently attracted attention.
My skin hadn’t yet fully healed after the fire. My body was wrapped in bandages. My core temperature was difficult to control, so my sisters constantly fanned me as I sat in my wheelchair.
And, as one of six kids, when my family arrived, we made quite a boisterous entrance!
I was reminded of those days, those “entrances,” those stares, when I heard about an experience Cynthia Tipton had at dinner with her family at a restaurant in St. Louis recently. (Read the full story here.) Let me share it with you.
Her son, Noland, is 10 and lives with high-functioning autism. It can be difficult to control his emotions; on this day a little teasing from his sister set him off.
Noland started screaming. Cynthia quickly knelt beside him, stroked his back and began whispering in his ear, hoping to calm him before other families’ dinners were interrupted.
It was not working.
The screams intensified.
A few more minutes of soothing her son passed before the crying quieted, Noland relaxed and the other families turned back to their own tables.
Watching their waitress approach, Cynthia was certain there’d been complaints. In the past, she’d been asked to leave and assumed the request was coming again. She readied herself for the awkward exit when the waitress handed the family their bill for dinner.
Posted by capcityspeakers on October 6, 2016
Recently, I spoke at a conference in Indiana. I spent the morning with four hundred attendees and then closed their event with a keynote address. Afterwards, I worked on a writing project at Starbucks. Later, I ate dinner at a local restaurant and then returned to my hotel room where I watched an episode of Boardwalk Empire. I went to bed around 9:00 p.m. which, by the way, is not my typical-old-man bedtime but rather my way of avoiding travel fatigue.
This was a common day for me. And even though it was quite full, there was this nagging voice in my head that said, “You should have done something more significant.”
Do you ever experience this? Do you ever feel like you should have accomplished something more important during your day? Does sitting on the porch or watching an episode of House Hunters feel like you’re not making the most of your time?
This frequently happens to me. For some reason, my Success Meter is not calibrated properly. When I get to the end of my day, I often feel that I have not achieved success unless I accomplished something tangible like writing a new piece of material, booking a presentation, or finding a cure for ebola. I watch other people who appear really busy and seem to be accomplishing many things throughout their day and I don’t feel that I measure up. In fact, when I catch myself staring out the window at a stink bug trying to get in through the screen, I realize that I must be quite a slacker.